load binary locally when in dev mode

[deitch]

This PR does several things:

• bump some dependencies to avoid CVEs
• fixes a lot of issues with the templates for the Helm chart, specifically related to the StatefulSet
• if the target OCI image for the pivot to the cluster is "dev:", then it says it is in dev mode, go-compiles at to a temporary binary, loads it to the cluster and uses that instead of the image. Described in the docs.

This still is not 100% complete, as the version starting in the cluster will error out, due to the fact that it should retrieve information from the cluster, rather than the command-line flags, and it does not know how to do that.

Next PR will update it so that when it runs in-cluster, and CLI override flags are not set, it picks up settings from the cluster. That also means saving a few more things in the secret.