release-24.1: roachtest: deflake c2c/disconnect

[msbutler]

Backport 1/1 commits from #154866 on behalf of @msbutler.

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Previously, the c2c/disconnect roachtest was disconnecting two source nodes, instead of a pair of source/destination nodes. This patch fixes this bug.

Informs: #152248
Informs: #150474

Release note: none

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Release justification:

[blathers-crl]

Thanks for opening a backport.

Before merging, please confirm that it falls into one of the following categories (select one):

• Non-production code changes. Includes test-only changes, build system changes, etc.
• Fixes for serious issues. Defined in the policy as correctness, stability, or security issues, data corruption/loss, significant performance regressions, breaking working and widely used functionality, or an inability to detect and debug production issues.
• Other approved changes. These changes must be gated behind a disabled-by-default feature flag unless there is a strong justification not to.

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[blathers-crl]

❌ PR #155008 does not comply with backport policy

Confidence: high
Explanation: The PR aims to backport a change for the 'c2c/disconnect' roachtest, located within the designated non-production directory 'pkg/cmd/roachtest/'. Although changes in this path are usually treated as non-production and thus exempt from standard backport policies, the PR description does not contain a 'Release justification: .*' line with a valid justification. Additionally, the commit does not fix a critical bug outlined by the specified critical bug criteria nor does it introduce a feature gated by a default-disabled feature flag. The changes seem to address an issue with the test mechanics rather than the database system's stability, security, data handling, or performance.
Recommendation: Reconsider the backport or provide a valid release justification explicit in the PR description.

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[cockroach-teamcity]

This change is 

[jeffswenson]

LGTM